Joan Rivers on Aging: "Once I thought some guy pinched my nipple and it turns out he accidentally stepped on it."
Bette Midler on Aging: "After thirty, a body has a mind of its own."
Lucille Ball on Aging: "As a woman 'matures' it's best to use a make-up table with everything close at hand - and don't rush; otherwise you'll look like a patchwork quilt."
Bobbie on Aging: If one must adjust to growing older, and age is an issue of mind over matter, then how I mind my matter needs some adjusting.
A couple of years ago, I went to the salon for the usual - a trim, highlights, and some low lights. After sitting there for 2 hours and shelling out a ridiculous sum of money, I came home and thought, not for the first time, that I didn't really like my new haircut. However, this is pretty typical for me since it usually takes about two or three days before I figure out how to style my new cut, and for the products they used to be washed out. This time, though, was different. Nothing I did worked. That's when I decided that this "do" wouldn't do. I told a friend how I was feeling. She said something like -- I should go back because my hair happiness is an advertisement for my salon and stylist. Four days post haircut, I returned to the salon and told "Spartacus" how I was feeling. He was very nice and told me to sit in his chair and he would "fix" it.
As the minutes ticked by, I sat there staring at myself in the mirror, trying to figure out what it was I didn't like. I lifted my hair off my neck, I made make-believe bangs, and so on. It was when I pulled part of my hair back into an Alice in Wonderland style [that's what my mom always called it when we were little] that the light bulb went off. I pulled tighter. OMG, it wasn't my hair I didn't like, it was my face!! Something, it seemed, had happened since my last visit!!! My eye lids looked heavy, my cheeks were, well, not where they were supposed to be, and I saw lines around my mouth that I didn't remember seeing last time. Now don't start with, "oh Bobbie, you're so hard on yourself" thoughts; I wasn't seeing an "old lady" sitting in the chair, but I wasn't seeing the "young" lady that I picture in my head.
Fifteen minutes later when Spartacus walked over to discuss what we should do, I told him that my hair was fine and that it was my face I needed to deal with. Of course, he told me I was foolish and silly [which I'm not sure was true, but especially liked hearing with his accent]. Although I do think I have a slight problem with body dysmorphia, I am able to step back and perform an honest critique of my body parts. While Spartacus droned on, I sat in his chair wondering if 42 was too young for a face/cheek/eye lift, and would my husband be willing to shell out $10,000 for a "birthday gift". I walked out of the salon wondering what other 42 year old women do when they feel this way....
I changed my hair dresser....
photo - me at 31
photo - me at 40
2 photos - me at 47, the no make-up, no hair done Bobbie, and the public Bobbie
Quote of the Day: "Start slowly because direction is so much more important than speed" author unknown
ON TO THE NEXT FEW
21 hours ago
8 comments:
You do look great. I think we think we look worse than we actually do unless your Paris Hilton. That girl's just delusional.
Here are some comments via email. My ego has been stroked:
1. I think you've grown prettier with age, and I'm proud of you for showing yourself with no make-up.
2. The no make up Bobbie is just as fabulous as the public Bobbie! You look good at any stage of the day!
Another comment via email:
You, my dear Bobbie, are so funny.... because I think you look incredibly young... and you write with such sincerity. These babbles are awesome!
Your brother thinks your beautiful, but I understand.
Love the age quotes (especially Joan's). You look FAB!! There is nothing to worry about!!
Well I think you look great even with on make up and hair not done! so there.
I thought you were beautiful the first time I met you last year and I am considerably younger than you are. Considering the fact that I incredibly picky and you caught my attention - I'd say you are doing pretty well.
Bobbie says: I wish I knew who anonymous was?!?!?!? so that I could thank them for that very nice compliment.
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